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Popular singer Jose Chameleone’s wife Daniella Atim Mayanja has publicly spoken out about the struggles she had with her in-laws regarding the birth and upbringing of her children. Through a post shared on her Instagram on Thursday evening, the mother of five revealed how falling in love was rosy until it was time came to have kids.
Daniella remembers meeting Chameleone’s family and her in-laws demanding for their first born to be a boy since a boy child sealed a man’s status insociety.
"I remember all the tingles I felt when I fell in love, I couldn’t wait to have kids with the person I loved. I had met his family and most of his friends, his parents told me they wanted a”boy child” as a first child even though I recall this sounded very impolite to me." She narrated
Daniella narrates that for fear of being the outcast, she went ahead and did everything possible to get the son that was demanded of her. She prayed, fasted, gave tithe and even went ahead to make a pact with God as she was in dire need of a son for her in-laws.
"I fasted for a son, I offered tithe for a son and I even went as far as making a pact with God. I told him, if he gives me a son for my first child, I will ensure that he serves God. Of course I had a son. God gave me the son I wanted and we gave him just the perfect name Abba." She narrated
After having the first son God wanted her to have more and more so she got a second and third sin, whom the in-laws thought were a bit excessive so they now wanted a girl child. According to Daniella, it’s around this time that she felt she was done with the standards that had been set by her in-laws and she began to develop a tough skin.
"I was done walking on egg shells and I wanted the courageous girl Fr John raised to come out of her shell. I wanted to be the brave, principled girl everyone refered to me as. It was time to start living the values Fr John had instilled in us; HUMBLE and FIERCE" she said
The usually calm and smiley Daniella notes that she had to bring out her fierce character just to protect her needs and her children from her in-laws. She felt her kids were being raised for her,something she felt uncomfortable about so she needed to take charge of the situation. She then stopped her kids from visiting their grandparents without her and this made her the topic of discussion among her husband’s relatives.
"I immediately stopped my kids from visiting their paternal grand parents if I was not in their company. I did not want my kids getting certain ideas in their heads. I became the VILLAIN who was the topic of discussion in family WhatsApp groups but secretly I was thumping my chest in victory. I had won this battle and I could raise my kids as they kept pointing fingers." She said
She recollects that at this particular time this is when her daughter was born and she brought so much joy to her life. According to her, her in-laws were very ecstatic but they were now also careful around her.
"Alba was born, she was an instant sunshine. My in-laws were excited but by this time they already knew not to make tasteless comments around me. The warrior in me had woken up and has never gone to sleep since then." She said