Yes, sometimes you will find yourself unsure of whether your partner really sees a future with you.
You can never stop these doubts from crossing your mind and it is not something you can just shove out of your mind well, simply because you are so into this person that you have already pictured a life with them.
To you, it seems crystal clear. You already see your home, kids and entire future in this one man but he seems a little too reluctant when it comes to planning a future with you.
Even when you make multiple excuses for him, sometimes he may just never be ready to settle down with you, build a home with you and be with you forever. He just doesn’t see his future with you.
He may make up excuses like “we still need a little more time,” , “Why the rush when we have an entire lifetime.” Or he may even hit you with the classic “ We are too young to settle this early.”
Wake up gurl. He just doesn’t want that with you. Settling down with someone has never been about the age or status. It is a matter of someone being ready to make it work with you, be committed to you and being ready to build with you!
I gradually felt your hand slipping through mine but I was always ready to hold you tighter. I saw my whole future in you.
Without even having anything tangible, I saw a house, a car, four kids and two cats, all with you. Even when I planned ahead, I failed to realize that I was planning alone.
I only woke up from the slumber when your hand let go of mine. You did not look at me the same and you insinuated that I was delusional!
I only gathered the broken pieces and glued them together when You told me You saw no future with me.That’s the only time I realized that you were not just unready to settle, but you were not ready to settle with me.
Clear Signs that he is not ready to settle with you.
He is comfortable with things as they are.
If he seems a little too comfortable with the way things are, then he might not be ready to settle down with you. The moment you witness this trait in your man, run for your life if you want to settle down. He simply does not want to take things forward.
He doesn’t make the relationship progress in any way and always makes sure to rub it in your face that not every relationship will eventually lead to marriage.
You are not there for school practice young lady. If there are no signs that this particular relationship is not headed anywhere, do not let him toy with you.
Pack your bags and be on your way to find yourself a more serious gentleman.
He avoids talking about the future.
There is no way you could ever convince me that a man who never wants to talk about the future with you will wake up and decide to settle down with you. I mean, he is avoiding the topic for clear reasons.
Why are you choosing to ignore this red flag? He does not talk about a future with you simply because it is not in sight. He does not see it with you and that is why he is not talking about it.
Sometimes, you will even hear him make plans for the future but once you notice that there is no YOU in those plans, you better get packing if your looking to settle. It’s quite obvious isn’t it?
His life isn’t settled.
If his own life is not settled then how in the heavens do you expect him to settle with you? He has evidently failed to settle with himself so it definitely wont be with you!
The sooner you realize this, the better it will be for you. If his life is still undefined, am pretty sure you wont be the fairy to define it for him.
Sometimes, you will find that he does not have a permanent place to live( he could be crashing at a buddie's home), he may not even have a stable job(then how do you expect him to take care of you?).
Save yourself the heartbreak and do the honors of not expecting more than you can get from this relationship.
He is not sure about you.
Do I really have to spell it out? Or is it just that love is too blind that you can not even see the red flags? He is not sure about you when you are in a relationship and you still expect him to settle down with you?
Will he become sure of you overnight? I don’t think so. Men only settle down when they feel sure about someone.
They settle where they find joy, peace, trust and they feel assured of their decision. If he Is not that sure of you, then am sure he is not ready to settle with you.
He is too much of a party boy.
If he is the life of the party and he still fails let the life of the party go, then he is definitely not ready to settle with you.
Thus is not even just about you and it’s entirely on him! He still wants to be like a free Albatross bird. He wants to adventure and wants to do new and exciting things with his life.
Leading the same life every single day will most definitely not be his forte and you can not force it on him because he will consider it boring and not so his lifestyle. U till he gives up on the partying life, he will never wish to settle.
He is not comfortable around you.
If he can not be himself around you and he is always walking on eggshells, then he definitely will not settle with you.
Men settle where they feel comfortable and they feel free to be their true selves. Well, how do you expect him to settle with you when he can not even show you the real him?
He is single around his friends.
If he is known for downplaying your relationship in front of his friends and the public, that means he is secretly dating you.
When you are dating in secret, he clearly is keeping you like a secret government project. You are an invisible aspect, well only visible to him. How do you expect him to settle with you when he can not show you off to the World?
He is hiding your relationship because you are together only in the shadows and he doesn’t want to be labelled as yours! Do you still expect him to settle with you?
He doesn’t Let you in.
If he does not let you in and he constantly has his walls up around you, then he simply is not ready to settle down with you.
This also points to trust. He does not trust you enough to make you apart of his World. How will he settle down with you then? Don’t lie to yourself and get packing girl.
Frequently Asked Questions.
What makes a guy not want to settle down?
They're scared of commitment. Whether their fear stems from not wanting to be tied down, worried that they haven't been with enough women or unsure about where they see their future, some men can't commit even if they seem to genuinely care for the woman they're with.
How do you know if he likes you but isn't ready for a relationship?
If you need clarification about how the guy feels about you, look for signs he likes you but isn't ready for a relationship. These may include avoiding talking about the future, being emotionally unavailable, or not wanting to introduce you to his friends or family.
What is a good age for a man to settle down?
Between 25 and 35. In my opinion, you must be between 25 and 35 to actually start thinking about settling down with a lifetime partner
What makes a man want to leave you?
Why men leave the women they love could be any number of reasons. Toxic relationships, being used, feeling emotionally spent, or meeting someone new could also contribute to what makes a man leave his wife.
A wife left behind may be wondering what happened to her once happy relationship.
At what age do men want to get married?
The age varies from man to man, but there are patterns that are easily identified: Most men who graduate from high school start thinking of marriage as a real possibility when they are 23 or 24.
Most men who graduate from college don't start considering marriage as a real possibility until age 26
