Nothing ever beats a confident demeanor, am I right? The power that confidence exudes will ever be unmistakable.
You may not believe me but when you hold your head high and do away with the hunch in your shoulders(which always comes with lack of confidence of course), you will be amazed by how many opportunities you were missing out on before you got your shine.
Confidence is almost like a booster for every little thing that goes on in our lives. Cynical as it may sound, sometimes lack of confidence could throw you in a deep phase of depression. Hear me out. When you lack confidence, you miss out on very many opportunities and this is because you are not confident enough to embrace new opportunities.
Without confidence, you could never take risks and who gains without risking? Absolutely no one! When you lack confidence you will realize that you lack the zeal to do almost everything.
You will always feel like you are not good enough to do certain things, which will only make you lag behind. This feeling you get that you are not good enough is very agitating and this is where your depression might kick in.
With my eyes downcast and a hunch in my shoulders, I roamed while believing I could conquer the World. How wrong I was.
No one ever gave me a second look and every single time my eyes were downcast, opportunities slid by over my head. I was frustrated and afraid of failure but I was also afraid of taking a step forward.
“Get up and move forward!” My heart said but my lack of confidence always failed me. The day I rose up and embraced myself, I gained all the confidence I needed to conquer this World. It is because I learnt to boast my confidence the easy way.
How to boast your confidence the easy way.
Do not fear Failure.
Many people fall in this bracket. Your greatest fear could be failure. You need to know however that Failing isn’t your enemy, but rather it’s fearing failure that truly puts you down. If you set big goals and have big dreams, you’re going to feel overwhelmed, and you’re inevitably going to feel like you can’t do it.
In those moments you have to look inside yourself, and gather every little bit of courage you have and just keep going.
Every single successful person has been afraid, and they’ve kept working and taking risks anyway, because what they are trying to accomplish is more important and urgent than their fear they will fail. Think about how much you want to achieve your goal, then put your fear to the side, and keep going, one day at a time. This is the greatest confidence boast you will ever get.
Watch your posture.
Do away with the hunch in your shoulders and raise your head high. Posture has a lot to say about one’s personality, something you may never have known. Your confidence should always start with your posture straitened your back and hold your head high. You will start to notice the air around you changing . This is a sure way to boast your confidence the easy way.
Make eye contact.
Whether you are giving a public speech or your talking to a particular individual, make sure to make eye contact. Sometimes you may find yourself unable to look directly at anyone and this is because you lack in confidence.
When you make eye contact however, the person or audience listening to you is most like lying to take you seriously, more than when you communicate with your eyes wandering about. When you make and maintain eye contact you will realize that your confidence level goes up in a way you had never imagined.
Stand Up for yourself.
Do not let anyone step all over you and make sure that you avoid taking the blame for things you have not even done. I mean come on. Are you going to let everyone get away with wronging you ? That will never work out. You will instead turn into a door mat that everyone uses for their dirty shoes.
When you stand up for yourself, you gain respect. What better way to build up your confidence than this?
Don’t care what others say about you.
People will always talk, regardless of what you do! This is something you have no control over and this is something you can never change about this World. There are going to be so many people who will tell you what to do and some will even go ahead to discourage you, saying that you can not accomplish your goal.
It us solely upon you not to listen to them. You must be focused on all your goals and aspirations. While they tell you the odds are against you, just focus on what you have to do. Remember most people are wrong about most things. If you think you can do it, you can definitely do it. Don’t listen to them, believe in yourself and keep going.
Do what makes you happy.
The best confidence boast will always come with doing what you love to do. This is simply because you will always feel comfortable while doing something you love. You will also do something with passion if you love that particular thing you are doing.
Once this is imparted, you will realize that your passion is appreciated and there is nothing that boasts confidence more than being appreciated. Remember that you gain confidence from doing what you do best and you only do what you do best when you love what you are doing.
Do not compare yourself to other people.
The worst thing you can ever do to yourself is comparing yourself to someone else. “He is better than me.” “At my age, Peter had already bought a car”. Just stop. Every single person has their own timeline in which they get things done. It’s not about having the same age or job that you will get things done in the same time frame.
Do your thing, take your time and be patient with yourself wherever need be. It will boast your confidence in a way you could never imagine.
Do positive self Talk.
It is very advisable for you to do self positive talk. It can be early in turn morning when you wake up, it can be every night before you go to bed or it can be during your lunch break. Feel free to even look at yourself in the mirror in the bathroom and reassure yourself. Tell yourself how strong, courage, brave or hard working you are.
The story you tell yourself about you is very important because the more good things you proclaim about yourself, the better you will feel about yourself. You will be shocked by how this will boast your confidence.
Face your fears.
Do not run away from your fears but rather face them. When you run from your fears, they will only keep haunting you and in the end, you will withdraw and lock your mind up in an invisible prison. When you face your fears however, you will realize that you are stronger than you had ever imagined.
Frequently Asked Questions.
What brings confidence in life?
Positive thinking, practice, training, knowledge and talking to other people are all useful ways to help improve or boost your confidence levels. Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (your self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experience.
What are the qualities of a confident person?
Believing in yourself. Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself.
What is the first secret to success?
Believe in Yourself. Nothing changes in your life until you believe you can do things that are important to you. And if you have a low opinion of yourself, nobody else is likely to raise it.
Why do I lack confidence?
It could be a result of past experiences. Some of the many causes of low self-esteem may include: Unhappy childhood where parents (or other significant people such as teachers) were extremely critical. Poor academic performance in school resulting in a lack of confidence. Ongoing stressful life event such as relationship breakdown or financial trouble.
What makes shy people attractive?
Shy people look harmless. To others, you appear modest, empathetic and non-threatening, which are all attractive qualities. So, while shy people will often ponder for a long time before they approach someone, when they do, they tend to have a consistently good experience.
