A long-distance relationship is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separated from one another or far apart and they rarely get time to see each other face-to-face.
I will tell you a short story. Once I was in a relationship with this beautiful girl. She was all I had ever dreamed of and I sincerely hoped I was the same for her. All the way from her looks to her brain, she was a work of art. She lived in Kenya however and I was in Uganda.
Away from school, seeing each other was literally impossible. So every holiday time, it felt as though we put our relationship on hold u till school resumes. I did not mind however because the love I had for her was (Chef's kiss) incredible.
Time came when we finished school and her life was entirely based in Kenya. Her parents and everything was over there. The only tie she had to my Country was me. (You can tell that is not a very huge dilemma, I mean it is just me). She therefore travelled all the way back to Kenya, leaving me a promise that we would still work out and fight for our love.
This girl assured me that once we begun to work, it would be very easy for us to arrange and meet up either in her Country or mine. We even planned on long talks over the phone and we promised to keep the communication. I wont put all the blame on her but believe me when I say we tried.
A few months into the relationship however, she communicated less and then gradually, there was no more communication. She just went silent and never even opened any of the messages I sent( I even called but she did not pick.) This was the end of a beautiful relationship, one I had hoped to protect forever.
Just like me, you could have Hope that you will be able to protect your long distance relationship simply because of all the people you have met this guy or lady is amazing and you would like to spend your forever with them.
Sometimes, long distance relationships fail not because we want them to but simply because we do not know how to maintain them. Here are a few tips to maintaining your long distance relationship and fulfilling your happily ever after:
How to make your long distance relationship work.
Communication is key.
Like I have earlier told you, every long distance relationship feeds off technology, data and communication. All the way from calls, texts, face time and video calls. You need to communicate in order to exchange feelings and once the communication is cut off, that is usually the end of a long distance relationship.
If you want your relationship to thrive, I suggest you keep talking to your partner because this is the only way they will hear from you, hear about what you feel at the moment,, be able to comfort you and also assure each other of your feelings for each other.
Make time to meet in a while.
Your in a long distance relationship and bot a blind relationship. I know that you could be really far from each other but once in a while, plan to meet up soon. When you meet up, this will strengthen your feelings for each other because you get a chance to be together physically. This also makes the relationship feel more realistic, you know. If you do not meet up once in a while, it feels like you are dating a ghost.
Plan your meet ups earlier.
The best part about relationships is making plans together. Think of the time the two of you will meet up and start planning for that next up together. Making such plans gives both of you something to look forward to. You may not believe it but this creates a rush of excitement for both of you. What better way to keep the passion alive than this way?
Send gifts over.
Who said you are too far to gift each other? Do you know how many online shopping sites exist nowadays? Find time to pick out a gift for your loved one and when you do, send it over to their address and surprise them. Am not only talking about gentlemen here as this also applies for the ladies. Find a minute to send your loved one a gift no matter how far they are from you. This will show your partner that you are constantly thinking about them and they live aren’t free in your brain.
Sexting is important.
Keep the passion alive even when you are in a long distance relationship. And what is a relationship with out some Spice added to it? You may feel like this is a bit difficult for you because maybe you have never tried it before but trust me the day you will, you will understand how it can bond the two of you.
You get a chance to talk about your feelings and explore your sexual fantasies together. This will keep the passion burning in your relationship no matter how far you are from each other.
Prioritize each other.
Your priority should always be your partner and this should go both ways. The relationship is not worth fighting for if the priority lies on one side alone, you know?
Keep positive.
Why would you jinx the relationship just because of your insecurities, avoid dooming your own happiness by thinking that this relationship wont work out for the two of you just because you are apart. Think positively on it and see how great it will go.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it healthy to stay in a long-distance relationship?
Maybe or maybe not. You see, Long-distance relationships can be problematic for the growth of a healthy relationship. The ramifications can also affect your mental health in negative ways. But it's also possible to thrive in a long-distance relationship. Distance can indeed make the heart grow fonder.
Does long-distance make couples stronger?
The great thing about a long-distance relationship is that it can help strengthen the bond that goes beyond the physical between you and your partner, because you have more time to talk to each other about yourselves and about each other. A long-distance relationship fosters communication and trust-building.
What is the hardest thing in a long-distance relationship?
Mistrust is the one aspect which LDR are very prone to. Because of the physical distance between partners, they may find it difficult to trust each other completely. Due to the lack of trust, partners may start pulling apart mentally, causing more harm than physical distance.
How long can long-distance last?
Long-distance relationships can last for years or they can last for a few months. But, how long your relationship lasts long-distance is less important as how healthy it is during this time. People see long-distance relationships as something very hard, where the suffering is inevitable.
How to seduce my long distance partner?
Plan romantic virtual dates, send each other thoughtful care packages, and surprise each other with unexpected visits. By keeping things fresh and exciting, you're more likely to keep the seduction alive. Another important aspect of long distance seduction is communicatio
