Signs that you have not moved on from your ex.

Most people confuse moving on with not hurting. This is entirely false. In accordance to the Oxford Dictionary, moving on is simply to leave or to start doing something new or making progress. There is nothing that says it wont hurt. As far as relationships are concerned, you can definitely move on from an ex even when you are still hurting deep inside

It is not easy to wake up and choose to let go of a relationship, however short lived it has been. It is not the period of time that dictates how difficult it will be to move on but rather the sentiments that have been attached to this relationship during the time it has been progressing.

Many people find it easier to leave a relationship but yet they find it very hard to move on from it. They end up being enslaved by the memories they hold of that relationship to an extent that they still feel like this particular past is still a part of them. This is entirely wrong. To move on is to progress. Remember that if you are still stuck in the maze of a past relationship then you have surely not moved on from it.

However absurd it may sound,  the only way to move on is to free yourself. You seem like your on a prison cage but the key is in your hands. Some times you may be afraid of what lies ahead of you after you get out of captivity, you may wonder how you will start afresh. Do not let this stop you from moving on.

“I think it happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you've known forever don't see things the way you do. And so you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”
? Nicholas Sparks

If you find difficulty in finding out whether you have moved on from a relationship or not, I have a few pointers for you to be able to figure it all out. Below are the signs that you have not moved on from your ex;

Signs that you have not moved on from your ex.

Stalking your ex on social media

If you still open your phone, check out your ex's profiles and pages on social media, chances are that you are still hung up on your ex. You may try to find every possible excuse for stalking him, one of them being that you want to see how bad he is suffering with out you. So if you find out he is suffering, what will you do about it?

Moving on involves caring for yourself enough not to stress over the person that hurt you in the past. No matter the terms of your separation, it will do you no good to check on how he is doing via his social media( social media is a total lie, people). So if you still rummage through his social media, you have not moved on from your ex.

Keeping souvenirs

I do not care however beautiful that bracelet they gave you is. If you still keep it despite a break up, then you are still attached to your ex. As humans, we have the burning desire to keep and take care of things that have been gifted to us by the people we cherish. If your ex gave you something, a gift maybe while you were still dating, holding on to it actually means you treasure the person that gave it unto you.

If you go around saying you hate your ex but yet you hold on to the little gifts they gave you, stop fooling yourself. You are not over your ex.

Keeping regrets.

Why are you regretting something that you already put in the past? Are you going to spend he rest of your life feeling like s**t about this same thing? Then you have not moved on from your ex. Whatever happened already happened and there is nothing you can do to change it. If you are regretting the path you chose, or even the decision you made to leave your ex then you have not moved on.

Comparing your new partner to your ex

Whatever your ex did for you and your current partner is not doing for you does not matter. They are two different people and you should appreciate that. The fact that you keep on comparing your current partner to your ex is not only uncomfortable for your current partner but it is also a clear sign that you have not moved on from your ex and everything they used to do for you, or even to you!

Always thinking about your ex

Have you found your brain wandering to your ex every now and then? It is a sign that you have not moved on. If you are always thinking about them even at times where you did not expect to, or you even recall everything you used to do together when you pass by what used to be your favorite hangout, you have most definitely not moved on.

You get sad when you hear about them

Sometimes, your friends may not be able to avoid talking about your ex because they are his/her friends as much as they are yours. If you moved on however, hearing about him will not phase you because your already used to the idea of not being with him.

If hearing about him makes you sad however, then you have most definitely moved on from that ex of yours.

Checking on them through friends.

I do not know where you get the guts to walk up to your friends and ask them about the person you were dating. It is a clear as pure water that you have not moved on. You still want to know what is going on in their lives and you tell me you don’t care about them? LMAO!

Avoiding a new relationship.

“Am single and contented". Cut the hoot. You are just avoiding this handsome young man or beautiful young woman because you have not moved on from your ex. There is nothing you can say about that. Jokes on you if you think the World believes you because even the Pope knows you have not moved on.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know your ex is never coming back?

Your ex may not be coming back if they show signs of complete avoidance. Blocking you on social media platforms, enjoying life without you, and not showing interest in your current relationship are a few signs. Focus on yourself and move on instead of holding on to them.

How do you know if your ex still loves you but won t admit it?

When an ex wants you back but won't admit it, they will constantly seek your attention and validation. If they have a greater ego, they might be holding on to past pain. If your ex wants you back, they will ask for your advice and attention, and will try to give you their attention in return

How do you know your ex will regret losing you?

When someone constantly talks about the past, it could be a sign of regretting something they did or didn't do. If your ex continually brings up memories from your past relationship, they may regret losing you. They may be reminiscing about the good times and wishing they could go back to those moments.

How do I make sure my ex will come back?

Small acts of kindness and honesty over time can help win back trust. Demonstrate reliability by following through on commitments, being honest, and apologizing for mistakes. With patience, trust can be restored, and the relationship strengthened. Going on a date with your ex can be a great way to get them back.

Has my ex completely forgotten me?

It's unlikely that an ex will forget about you, even if you don't communicate with them after the breakup. Relationships tend to make a large emotional impact on both people involved, so it's likely your ex will remember you and the relationship even after the breakup