Breaking up has got to be one of the hardest thing that anyone can ever do. It is never easy letting go for some people whereas for some people it may be just a walk in the park. However, for most people that break up not because they hate their partners, it is one of the worst moments of their lives.
Why do people break up?
Everyone has a different reason for breaking up with a person they woke up and chose to spend their entire lives with.
Lack of communication
This is the worst murderer of many good relationships. As long as people stop communicating, there is room for misunderstandings and once space is created for doubt, it is enough to kill even a strong relationship.
Infidelity.
Boom. Cheating is the worst thing you could ever do to your partner. Many people fail to recover from this pain. Some even go ahead to think it is their fault and they blame themselves for the rest of their lives.
Long distance.
Have you ever heard of the saying “Distance is the bitterest taste in love. It either makes the heard grow fonder or take another lover". Yes, sometimes distance is not all about missing your partner more but just about letting go. The further you are from your partner, the more detached you could get.
Lost feelings
There is no coming back from this. As long as love is lost, that is the end. There is no way you could revive your feelings if you hate the person that once made your heart flutter like crazy.
How to break up without being rude.
However much break up always hurts and is never something to highly anticipate, not every break up is harsh or rude. Sometimes, you could still wish the best to the person you want to break up with and therefore you would not want to see them getting hurt over this break up.
Be kind.
If you still want your partner to be happy even without you, let them down slowly. Treat the other person as you would want to be treated. Because breakups involve a lot of feelings, sometimes, our emotions can get the best of us. But if you’re the one initiating the separation, be the bigger person and stick to your practiced script.
Be direct.
Avoid beating around the Bush. You could give this person a heart attack. You can be gentle while being clear and direct about what you want. Kindness and empathy really are necessary in a difficult situation like this. Choose your words carefully but be straight forward. Use sentences that reflect your understanding of how the person feels, while also making sure you clearly express yourself.
Don’t do the clichés.
We have all been attacked with the clichés once, right? Things like “Its not you, its me". That is the worst ever. How do you expect this person not to get mad after hearing this? You are trampling in their self esteem. They font know what they did wrong and your leaving them a lot of doubts and insecurities.
Don’t play the hero.
The biggest mistake you could ever make is saying something like, ‘I just don’t want to hurt you,’ or even ‘I think you’re looking for something more than I am,’ Who are you kidding? Don’t hurl all the blame on your partner while glorifying yourself. Your simply dumping all the responsibility of the break up on this person and freeing yourself from the guilt. (You are not completely innocent)
Don’t do it over the phone.
You are a World class J*rk if you have done this before. This is the worst kind of break up there is in this universe. If you want to be polite while breaking up with someone meet with them face to face. Don’t do it via text or phone call. This is disrespectful.
In conclusion therefore, ass you initiate a break up, remember to be mindful, kind and respectful about it.
