Today we look at something different. Let’s talk family and love that exists there. We look at siblings and how they feel about each other. The most tricky part is having difficult, but necessary, conversations with your siblings. It seems to come with the territory as we age and mature, but navigating the minefield successfully can be done.
It’s possible that it has been long since many and their siblings have experienced those issues where most brothers and sisters face wrestling over the remote, bickering over time on tv or arguing over parents attention. And if you’ve managed to overcome petty sibling rivalries and maintain a respectful relationship in adulthood, good on you not only have you undoubtedly made Your parents proud, you have also pretty much guaranteed social and emotional support during life’s stressful times.
Sibling relationships teach us a lot about understanding, compassion, negotiation, conflict resolution, communication and emotion regulation, and can benefit how we relate to others we have relationships with. we don’t get to choose our siblings so we get stuck with what we get. if one has never felt close, or you drift apart or you haven’t mastered speaking to each other as grown-ups who aren’t vying for your parents’ attention, consider this a gentle artivle to guide.
Openness is at the top of the list when it comes to staying close with brothers and sisters, as is the ability to contribute equally and share tasks. The thing is, siblings will eventually have to agree on supertough and super-common topics, and it will be easier to work together if you can connect and communicate. Below are some coming topics research has allowed us to discuss. “WHAT SHOULD WE DO ABOUT DAD’S SICKNESSES?” Most times emotions are high and opinions differ, figuring out what to do about a parent’s health and well-being can be a very difficult task.
For example dealing with a younger sister about how to care for their a father might be contentious, to put it politely. If It isn’t safe for him to live on his own anymore siblings have to choose where he stays. Sometimes siblings may not be remotely on the same page about what their dad needs like where he should go and how much everything was going to cost.
Disproportionate responsibility in parental care is a problem. Especially when each had different level of income. How to deal with such problems: Having very frank discussion and suggest dividing responsibilities based on the strengths of each sibling you take charge of finding a parent an assisted living residence and another can oversee getting the parents home ready to list. for example. Then arrange regular family meetings to keep everyone in the loop and address challenges when they come up. Work together to make decisions in the best interest of your parent.
If possible, include the aging parent to offer feedback on what he or she needs and wants. If there’s still debate that’s causing drama during an already difficult time, consider seeking expert advice like from an auntie. Rational and cooperative conversations are not always possible with some families, and at times, inviting a third party in to mediate family discussions may be necessary. Another coo on issue is property related especially parents property. For example “I WANT MOM’S OLD CAR.” Sentimental people, take note the division of heirlooms will likely cause friction, especially if family property is suddenly up for grabs. How to deal with this: Approach your siblings in an open dialogue to prevent them from getting defensive.
If you invite them to share the things that are most important or sentimental to them, you can communicate what’s important to you. You may realize that what’s sentimental to you may not have the same meaning for siblings, and they would be happy to give an item up as long as they get the heirloom they’re most passionate about. If a parent has recently passed, it’s best to wait a few months before splitting up possessions to avoid stress and conflict when everyone’s grieving. The next and most delicate issue is when most siblings are grown and have to mix personal relationships with family. For example: “I’M UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND YOUR HUSBAND.” So there’s really no way to put this delicately, unfortunately.
It makes sense that this would take a toll on the relationship because your sibling probably feels caught in the middle between two people he or she really loves. One should ask themselves why they are uncomfortable around the brother-in-law and whether or not you can shift your thinking about him. If your issues are out of concern for your sibling’s well-being or safety, you may need to have a loving and frank conversation, acknowledging that you know this isn’t an easy talk to have.
How to solve this: If for example the in-law just rubs you the wrong way, it's best to learn to let go and “find ways you're able to tolerate being around this person.” Try to avoid getting into conversations on hot-button topics if you have different belief systems, and be choosy about when and what you do with the two of them. If your feelings are known and you want to make peace, “take responsibility for your actions and emotions and communicate your willingness to make an effort with the spouse because you want to be supportive of their relationship.” Just don’t say it if you don’t mean it the two of you might need to talk it out, then take time to work on whatever harm has been done.
