With the uncertainty of the Covid 19 pandemic, many became victims of long distance relationships especially with the lockdown and different restrictions that came about. As the new normal checks in refreshing ones relationship is confusing since time apart leaves many in illusions on whether to continue their relationships.
Here in the love jungle we share some practically working tips to save relationships on thin threads.
1. Focus on positivity
Daily stress can make it easy to forget about how much you and your partner love each other. At the start of a relationship, intense positive chemistry takes precedence over everything else. However, as the intense romantic stage slowly narrows and everyday stressors are introduced, small issues that once seemed invisible can become larger problems.
When this happens, it can be easy to focus only on what's wrong in your relationship.
One should take note, this is a time when couples should nurture the connection that they have and try to focus on the positive.It's important couples nurture the positive aspects of the relationship and each other.
Although it may be tempting to spend your quality time together discussing your relationship it’s not highly advisable. Fact-fully its more beneficial to go out and do things with each other that are fun. By making time to do the things you both enjoy, you and your partner will stay connected, and this in turn can make it easier to overcome issues together.
2. Try something new and exciting
It's easy to get stuck in a rut when you've been together for a while. One of the best ways to spice things up is to do something that breaks the monotony or your established pattern. This could be anything from trying a new activity together to planning a surprise for the other person.
In a relationship surprises are so important. If time and budget allow, going away somewhere together. If you're able to get away for a week, a island (Kalangala) vacation can do wonders to refresh your relationship. Short on time? Simply spending the night at a hotel while the kids are with the in-laws can go a long way towards improving a couples bond.
Putting yourself in a new environment can provide you with the opportunity to re-establish some of the positive chemistry that brought you together in the first place.
3. Communicate with your partner
One of the best ways to improve your relationship normally is to take a look at how you communicate. Both individuals need to listen actively and participate with empathy and compassion.
It's important to listen to your partner through the lens of their own experiences. You need to put your feet into your partner's shoes so that you can really understand their needs and what they are asking for.
Actively listening to your partner and validating his or her perspective and needs can lead to positive growth in the relationship.
4. Learn your partner's love language
There five different love languages.
You may think you know exactly what your partner needs, but your assumptions might not be hitting the mark. This can lead to frustration for both parties, especially the ladies.
Everyone is wired differently, which is why it's so important to take the time to find out what your partner needs in terms of love and affection. Everyone experiences feeling loved in different ways, whether that's through verbal affirmations, touch, spending quality time together, gifts or acts of service. Having a conversation with your partner about what he or she needs and then doing these things has a big impact. This can completely shift the relationship in a positive direction.
5. Establish rituals or regular practices throughout the day where you can connect
There are several times throughout the day where you come together and separate as a couple: waking up, going off to work, coming home from work and going to bed. In romance, these are often tender and loving times. If one maximizes these small daily rituals through touch and affirmations it can build your connection as a couple. For example one can make it a point to kiss their partner goodbye when he leaves for work, hug him before bed or have a glass of wine together when you both get home after a long day.
Finally creating protected time without excuses as a couple. This could mean making a pact to have a dinner table reservations or bedroom or making sure you have time together without any intrusions. When it comes to refreshing your relationship, there's no right or wrong. It's all about finding out what works for you as a couple and being open to talk about it.
