All must be familiar are with the idea that hard work and effort will get us what we want in life, but there are some situations where this approach just doesn’t work. When it comes to relationships trying too hard to make a good impression on people can actually make you less likable, suggesting that hard work isn’t always the way to make friends or end up dating someone.
Instead of trying so hard, you may have more success by being yourself and acting normal. In life having good impressions and being likable is important in all aspects, your personal life, at work, and when trying to meet people and make friends better yet start a realtionship. The key is to find a balance between not trying hard enough and trying too hard, as going too far in either direction can backfire.
Focusing your efforts on the strategies that actually work helps one avoid eating a lot of time. Some of the ways you might try to avoid rejection or get people to like you can make you more anxious, less authentic, and ultimately, less likable. In the love jungle you read some of the effective and less effective ways to make a good impression.
Kicking off with some of the the generally shared ways of effective impressions are:
Showing interest: asking questions, showing concern and interest in other people
Being honest: opening up, being vulnerable, sharing real thoughts and feelings, being direct
Having Positivity: leading enjoyable conversations, quality time, humor, and optimism
Allow your self to be the Listening one: slowing down, letting people speak, asking questions, showing interest
Vulnerability: disclosing things that are somewhat personal or sensitive to build trust
Share Kindness: being thoughtful, sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, helping people
Try Confidence: being assertive, setting clear boundaries, being upfront and honest
Don’t forget Inclusion: including people in conversations, being open-minded and supportive
Authenticity is key:being real with people about your interests, thoughts, feelings, and needs, Even if each one is crafted differently and one way might work or even fail to work for another trying any above wouldn’t hurt but atleast overtime there are methods very obvious to make one less likable, here are some signs:
Holding back: playing it safe, staying quiet, not opening up, not sharing ideas or opinions
Playing it cool: pretending to be indifferent, not care, hiding your true goals, feelings, and needs
Self-criticism: exaggerating flaws to make people feel good or to get validation
Taking over: interrupting, filling every silence, not letting other people speak
Perfectionism: trying too hard to hide mistakes, flaws, and weaknesses from others
Aggression: power trips, dominating conversations, intimidation
Bragging: trying too hard to impress people with looks, status, money, or achievements
Being needy: seeking pity, approval, or validation, oversharing, nagging or annoying
Ingratiation: overusing flattery, faking enthusiasm, too polite, or a people pleaser.
While the above might just be one’s character not every time that these signs surface they are trying to make an impression to you.
