This month has been named all sort of names and many memes have followed suit. As a reader u must be familiar with “every small money I get for enjoyment”. Or “eat that money”. And when it comes to enjoying the fruits of labour most want to have it with their loved ones especially the significant other or even worse the side chick.
In such situations, followers can have a front row seat to people's relationship from when it starts to the end, including when they start subbing and calling out their exes online.
As a fact many of our lives are spent scrolling through social media, and sharing our day-to-day moments online.
According to Fred Katende, "This posting and boasting about your relationship on social media may be a sign or even a cause of trouble in paradise."
We sampled a poll of people between the ages of 18 and 50 on shotkit and ranked their relationship, based on intimacy, communication, and trust, and how much 'couples' content' they post online.
Three quarters of the respondents who defined their relationships as either 'very happy' or 'happy' said that they 'never' post couples' content. We further went and had views from different people over time.
Of the people who regularly share such posts, 42 per cent said their relationship is very unhappy.
Stella has been in a relationship for over three years and she rarely, if not never, posts her partner, she also forbids him from doing so.
"It's not like I am trying to hide anything. I don't know about others, but it just isn't my thing."
There is a saying among young people that whether you post your relationship online or not, if a relationship wants to spoil, it will.
Patience thinks you should not post fights, but all other couple content is okay.
"You don't want to attract disrespect or dislike for your partner, especially if there's a chance that you guys will make up. The good times and other happenings, yes you can share that to encourage other people, among other reasons."
A downside to partners not posting each other online is either one of them is trying to hide the relationship.
Here is what Peter, who just got into a new relationship thinks, "You don't have to post any part of your relationship online. But the reality is 'online' has become an active part of life. So, the question will be, 'Why aren't you posting it?'"
"Someone who posts everything personal about them, food, work e.t.c and doesn't post their boo is suspicious, but someone who posts nothing, if they don't post about the relationship, it’s okay."
There is no clear-cut rule on what you should or shouldn't do. Everything depends on the motive.
Are you trying to disorganise people? Or are you incredibly happy in that moment and want to show others?
The bottom line is your relationship needs not be dependent on external validation to be loving and long-lasting.
