Marriage: To commit or not to commit..

So recently I was with a friend. She is preparing for her ceremonial functions after having finished our education in a higher institution. I congratulated her wholeheartedly and I surely was happy to know she had found her own happiness.

Whereas some people were saying she was rushing into the commitment, she seemed too excited to wait a little longer. Her concern was that she couldn't make her 'hunnie' wait l'est he be snatched by another 'Kampala damsel' who is ready to settle.

This friend of mine is one who was always talking about making a career for herself once she was done with campus.  During our conversation, she talked about bearing the husband to be's kids. 

This is where I wondered to myself whether I was growing up slowly or my friend was growing up too fast I couldn't catch up to her. This is where she asked me about when I was planning to settle.

I openly told her that I was not willing to settle any time soon. You should have seen the look on her face. Her eyes made huge circles as she widened them, her jaw dropped and she even gasped. She looked at me like I had grown nine more heads in addition to mine. She was in shock and disbelief. Now this is what shocked me. Her disbelief surprised me. 

It seemed to me that just because she felt ready for a commitment, everyone else should be ready for it. How does that even work? My mind went blank for a minute until she woke me up with a 

"How do you expect to live your life?"

Girl I expect to struggle, work hard and make money. I expect to live rich and happy. I wanted to say this to her but i guess my lips were paralyzed from shock. 

I am even too lazy to take care of myself and you expect me to take care of another fully grown man like he is a baby? Maybe that is not my calling. 

Marriage is not for everyone. Some people desperately want it and in the end they are dying for a divorce. Some people even loath the thought of such a heavy commitment. Why don't we just learn to appreciate the differences heaven awarded us with and not question each other's beliefs and choices?