It is not only women that have regrets in life. Men do have regrets as well. Many times we make the assumption that men live the life they have always wanted to live. We assume that whatever they are up to is what they have always wanted to do with their lives and they are living without any regrets. Well guess what? Men are human too and humans always have regrets!
It could be a out their love life, work or their beliefs. However much they do not let off these feelings as often as women do, they are sometimes battling a few regrets and nursing disappointments that have come along with the regrets they are bearing. Well if you do not believe me, let me enlighten you on a few regrets that men carry with them every single day.
A friend of mine always used to tell me she envied me. I never once gave it much thought but the more she said it, I started to question myself on why she always said so. Then I decided to question her on why she always said she envied me. Believe me when I say her answer baffled me.
“ You are having a stable job, you are earning, your married and you have the life you always wanted.” She said to me. Guess what Vannesa, I know am earning but did you ask me if am happy with my job? Am married but did you ask if my wife is in love with me? And who said this is the life I always wanted for myself? You should know that I carry regrets I never even talk about.
Men's greatest regrets.
Losing contact with friends.
Sometimes life takes a toll on men in ways that are even unimaginable. Men find themselves in a race against time as they struggle to become something in this life. They then get taken up by work, pressure to earn, make a name for themselves and build a family at that. In this struggle, they lose contact with a few friends they may have made.
You could never know what a friend means to a man, you know. It hurts men to lose friends, most especially those they were with at their lowest times. They could have shared dreams together and losing contact with such meaningful people is very regretful. Even when men don’t say it, this is the greatest regret a man could ever have.
Missing a career opportunity.
This is a blow like no other. When a man loses a career opportunity, most especially if it is in line with a career they have always had a dream of pursuing, it turns into the worst regret they could ever get in their lives.
A man will always wish he took up the opportunity rather than sit back and watch it slip away from his grasp. No matter how many opportunities are presented to him, he will still regret that one lost opportunity he had major interest in for good.
Showing their weakness.
Men are usually non expressive humans and if he ever approaches you and expresses his fears and insecurities to you, hen believe me he trusts you in a way you can never even imagine. Men keep everything bottled up a d they would rather break down than confide in someone else a out their woes.
Even when a man singles you out a d expresses himself, he will forever regret having shown too much emotion or having given away his feelings to you. Believe me when I say it is not about you but it is just in their nature as men.
Working a job they hate.
No man will be free from the regret of working a job they have no interest in. Men usually love to do something they have passion in because aside from the money, they wish to get fulfillment and happiness, which only comes with pursuing a career that they are passionate about or they are interested in.
If a man is working a job that he hates, no matter how much he gets from it, he will always feel unfulfilled with it and hence he will live the rest of his life with regrets about that.
Playing safe.
Very few men turn out not to be risk takers. Very few men like to play it safe therefore. In a few circumstances however, men find themselves playing safe because of the circumstances they are in. He may choose not to start his own business and continue being a salary earner because the new business is uncertain and yet he has a family to sustain.
This means he is choosing to sacrifice his desire for the survival of his loved ones. Even when it gives him joy to see his loved ones happy, he will never fill the gap that has been left by this sacrifice. Playing safe will never make him feel good a out himself and his biggest regret will always be not taking the risks and playing it safe!
Not spending time with loved ones.
Even when men seem like workaholics who have no time for their loved ones, it is something they always live to regret. Sometimes it is not that they do not have the urge to spend time with their loved ones but they believe that they need to work harder to provide for their loved ones.
A man will feel the need to choose between working hard to sustain loved ones or spending time with loved ones only to see them starve to death or lacking basic needs. Men live to regret spending time away from their loved ones nevertheless.
Losing a perfect woman.
In every man’s life, there is always that woman he let go before, could be due to circumstances or maybe he just met her at the wrong time. This kind of love never leaves him even when he moves on to another woman. It however turns worse when he moved on to an inconsiderate a d ungrateful woman. He will forever regret having lost that one woman who understood him and loved him unconditionally.
Marrying too young.
Sometimes, men think that it is better for them to marry young so as to build their lives with their partners. After they enter the marriage however, they regret having married early. There are things men can not do once they are married and some times, they still want to do them because well, that is the age those certain things should be done. They start to feel like they are now tied down y the marriage and they start wanting a way out of it. When they realize there is no way out, they instead resort to regretting having married early
Frequently Asked Questions
Do men regret hurting a woman?
Yes they do. Most men who initiate breakups or hurt their partners through their actions or words do eventually experience remorse over losing their beloved. Ultimately, your man will likely realize the flaws in his behavior and actions. Men do painfully come to terms with the harsh reality that they've lost a very special lady.
What makes a man regret losing you?
Set boundaries. The best way to make a man regret hurting you is to make him realize he no longer has unrestricted access to you. Scrap all kinds of routines you both had as a couple and strictly maintain no contact for at least one to two months.
Who feels more pain male or female after breakup?
Most probably women. The study indicated that women get more negatively affected, both emotionally and physically, by a heartbreak. Women participants rated their 'emotional anguish' to be 6.84 post break up and whereas, the figure turned out to be 6.58 for men
What makes a man realize he messed up?
If a guy feels embarrassed about his past behavior, it is one of the positive signs a guy knows he messed up. As a responsible person, he feels ashamed about his irresponsible behavior. On top of that, he is also embarrassed that he lost the chance of having a perfect life with you by doing something stupid.
How a man feels when he hurts a woman?
When a man hurts a woman he loves, he feels emotions such as anger, guilt, frustration, self-loathe, fear, etc. Although he may not express his feelings confidently, a man will show signs he is sorry for hurting you or signs he knows he hurt you
