Everyone has their own idea for the very first date and this is because of their personality. Some people prefer to eat out or go to the park together and enjoy a play date and we do respect that. The first date however should be thought out and planned carefully because you want to make a good first impression on your date, right? Well why else would you go through the trouble of planning it in the first place.
Planning for the first date should bot just be about the attire you are going to pull or the conversation you are going to have. Sometimes, you spend a lot of time practicing on what to say, what not to say, what to do and what not to do and you end up neglecting the most important aspect you should be looking at the location.
It may not appear trivial to you but I assure you the place you choose for your first date says a lot about you and your personality. If you do not believe me, read on and I will prove it to you.
There are places you need to scrape off your list for first date go to places and it would be best to check them out later into the relationship after you get to know each other a little better. There are also places that will bring out the beauty of the first date and even turn it into pure perfection.
Below are the places you should never consider for your first date;
Places you should never consider for your first date.
A beach.
The sand sure does look beautiful and all. I see you want to draw the heart with both your initials on the sand and let the wave wash it away. It sure does sound romantic huh? The disclaimer however is that you wont like the idea of you and your first date getting sand every where on your first date (you never thought of that did you?)
Also, with the screams and shouts of the beach, the environment is usually less calm. How are you going to talk to each other in order to know each other better when you are screaming while diving into the lake?
An amusement park
An amusement park doesn’t sound like such a bad idea, right? Of course you can run from place to place, hand in hand (Speaking of, are you ready to hold hands comfortably on the first date?). You get to ride the merry go round but what will happen when one of you goes on a dangerous ride that will have them dizzy enough to throw up? I don’t think any of you would love to see another's vomit on your first date.
The museum
We do love our History, just not everyone, okay? You do not know your partner well enough on the first date to take them to the museum to see their ancestors for the first date. Unless you talked with them via the phone and they told you they have a knack for History, do not consider the museum as your go to place for your very first date.
A concert.
For Heaven’s sake The beetles? Imagine dragons? BTS? It does not matter if she is a fan of their music. You just can not do that. The very first date should be about getting to know each other a little well or getting acquainted. How are you going to get to know each other over that loud music and the screams of the crazy fanatics? I guess not.
A movie theater.
This comes off as romantic And I get that. How will you gauge her communication if you are going to sit in a theater quietly watching a movie for over two hours? Or do you plan to initiate conversation after the movie? (Slight shrug)
Your place or hers.
If anyone ever gave you this idea, look for them and kill them! It is majorly because of two reasons. First off, it does not show that you put any effort whatsoever into impressing your date. You just called her over and she is most probably going to be the one cooking, right?
Secondly, let us not ignore the first thing that comes to your mind when someone suggests you go over to their place. I mean anything can happen and you both are humans. When you call her over, the first thing she will think of is that you are trying to take advantage of her.
At the club
It is most definitely not the best idea to grind on your first date just because you chose to go to a club for the very first date. (Cringe)
A family dinner.
You have difficulty eating with your family and yet you chose to subject this poor girl to that kind of torture? And why are you rushing things huh? It is a first date and your already making it look like an engagement dinner. Wait when your mother hands her an apron and tells her to wash the dishes right after the meal! Do you get what am saying?
Frequently asked Questions
What's the safest place for a first date?
In a very private area. For your first date, avoid meeting someone you don't know well yet in your home, apartment, or workplace. It may make both you and your date feel more comfortable to meet in a coffee shop, restaurant, or bar with plenty of other people around. Avoid meeting in public parks and other isolated locations for first dates.
Where should girls go on first date?
Choose a well-lit, populated walking trail, a local park or take a stroll around your hometown's Main Street together. If you run out of conversation topics, you can always comment on the scenery. Go skating. Whether you choose ice or roller, skating's a classic date.
What is the biggest mistake people make on a first date?
Pretense. The biggest mistake is to get someone to like an inauthentic version of you. Although it may feel good in the short term, it will be confusing for your partner in the long run. We all want to be loved, but that feeling truly comes only when we are loved for who we are.
What to wear on the first date?
Avoid Looking Overly Trendy or Unapproachable. For men, try a basic t-shirt or button-up with jeans or chinos styled with a belt, dressy shoes, and a nice watch. For women, go with a little black dress or a casual blouse and jeans finished with feminine accessories and a natural makeup look.
Do you kiss on the first date?
Deciding whether or not to kiss on the first date is tricky, but experts say to just trust your instincts. “I don't think there's any right or wrong when it comes to kissing on the first date; it's just how you're feeling, what the vibe is, what the connection is, what you're comfortable with,”
