There is need to differentiate between people that love you and people that just need you around. For some people, you are kind of a support system that they can not do without but when they actually have no feelings of love towards you.
What is love?
Love is a feeling and an emotion that includes affection, respect, attachment as well as the need to protect your spouse. Anything less than that does not qualify to be called love.
What are the elements of love then?
• Affection
You care so much for a person and you have a gentle feeling of fondness or liking for this person. This is an essence of true love.
• Respect
If you do not respect your Spouse, then you most probably are not in love with them. Love always goes hand in hand with respect(keep that in mind)
• Sacrifice
True love comes with sacrifice. When you want something so badly, you need to be able to sacrifice something you don’t want that badly in place of this one thing you want so badly.
• Protection
With love, you would never want to see the person you have this deep feeling for suffer. In the end, you will want to protect them. That is just how love is.
How would you know he lobes you and he is not just using you?
He never gives but he takes
When two people are in love with each other, they both have to give as much as they take in a relationship. Generally, both partners should contribute in equal measures; sometimes giving more, sometimes receiving less depending on where they are in life. If however you find yourself giving all the time and all he does in take, it is a sign thag he is using you. He is only in love with what you have to offer and not in love with you
He is never there when you need him.
Real love is all about supporting each other. You are there when he needs you and he is there when you need him. If you are there for him but he is not there for you, something is probably wrong. When you notice that he seems to disappear completely whenever something goes wrong in your life and he is suddenly too busy when you need him the most, this means he is not willing to shoulder your pain as he has no interest in you whatsoever.
He doesn’t respect your boundaries.
Respect is fundamental for any healthy relationship. It’s about communicating to better understand each other’s limits, and then honoring each other’s need for space and solitude. But if he disregards this crucial aspect, it might be a sign that he values more what you provide than you and your fantastic individuality.
He is disrespectful.
I will say it again. Love is all about respect! If he frequently disrespects you, insults you, or belittles you, either in private or public, it’s a glaring sign that he doesn’t value you as he should. Our partners should lift us up and bolster us, not put us down.
He is always emotionally unavailable.
In a loving relationship, communication is key. It’s not just about discussing the weather and making small talk, but also about having deep conversations about each other’s thoughts and feelings, and sharing ideas back and forth. Now, if he avoids or dismisses these deeper conversations, it may well be a red flag.
He excludes you from his personal life.
If you are always including him in your personal plans but he is not including you in his, then he does not love you, he is just using you. It conveys that they see you as an important part of their life. Do not get me wrong, it should not be too rushed. Being introduced to the whole family in week one isn’t a great idea, but being a hidden lover two years down the line isn’t great either. So if he consistently avoids introducing you to his friends or family, take this as a potential warning sign. He is just not that into you
You therefore need to look out for the warning signs before it is too late. Many people are in relationships where they are not lobed but rather they are needed.
