Ladies and gentlemen, women have feelings and they get hurt. I know men get hurt too but we shall come back to that later. Are you a boyfriend, a lover or a Husband out there? Then I guess it is time that you check your behavior because there are a few things you may do out of habit but they are hurtful to your girlfriend or your wife.
Sometimes, the worst thing is that you don’t even know that you are hurting your partner and it is not that you intend to hurt them every time this happens. There are those few things that are hurtful to your girlfriend but she will not say it out loud. Your girlfriend will not always open up and tell you what you said or did hurt them. They expect you to do the mathematics sometimes bruh.
This could be one of the reasons why people say that women are the most complicated creatures (which is also highly debatable in my opinion but we shall get back to that later.) but sometimes, it happens when you are passing over a joke or something. Women have insecurities too, if you must know( sometimes even more than men). The thing is, she wont always tell you that you are hurting her. She sometimes need you to figure that out.
So however unintentional it may be, you need to know a few things that could possibly get on your partner’s nerves and I have just the right answers for you. Below are some of the things men may do that could hurt women unintentionally;
Things men do and they unknowingly hurt women.
Being Lazy.
Are you the kind of guy who let’s your woman do all the chores while you laze around on the Couch watching your favorite show or a game of sports? If you do not want to hurt your woman, you may have to rethink this about yourself. We know it’s your favorite game or show and all but man, get your act together sometimes.
If she is right there doing all that work, it does not mean that she does not have anything else to do with that time. She also has hobbies and friends to hang out with. Instead of sitting out all the chores simply because you’re a ‘man’s and ‘men’ don’t do chores, why don’t you try to get involved.
It is not even about how hefty the work is but sometimes as she goes about all these chores alone while you seem immersed in something else, she feels completely alone and neglected. This is pure pain and torture.
Tactless jokes.
We love a man of humor. Its lovely that you are trying to be a Chandler Bing (RIP Matthew Perry) but don’t cross the line with that. Sometimes, men go overboard with this. Let me tell you how. Some men will try to make jokes about a woman's insecurities. That is not funny at all. It is degrading and rude and it will hurt your partner.
If you know her insecurity is her weight or her height, why would you go on and make jokes about such a topic when you know all so well that it is rather sensitive to her? Let us be real here bruh. You don’t even need anyone to tell you that this is very hurtful.
Building a brick wall.
Men usually have this whole thing going on for them and they still never bother to let the women in their lives know. Some times, it is as bad as your woman learning of these things through your friend or even worse, their friends. I mean come on.
When you build a brick wall, am not sure what your trying to achieve. Did someone tell you that dark and brooding character is hot or something? Well, you may have been told so but it is hurtful if I must tell you, more so to your woman.
Being too busy for her.
We do not even need to speak about this. Should we really? Why are you with someone when you do not have time to date them anyways? (So inconsiderate)
Trying to change Her
If you found her behaving in a certain kind of way or dressing up in a certain kind of way and you fell in love with her, that is it. Period. There is no need to turn her into the person you did not even fall in love with. Why are you playing the change game anyways, huh?
I don’t get this y’all. Some one make it make sense. Why are you trying to make her behave in a certain way, dictating what she should wear, telling her how to laugh and all that? Let us be serious y’all.
Micro managing.
Many men do this but most men that do this are the ones that are either cohabiting or in marriage. When your wife or girlfriend does a certain chore and you go ahead to double check it. Let’s say she irons a shirt and you rein it, saying a few parts were not well done or when she cleans the living room and you redo it, saying it was not well done.
Come on! Are you trying to degrade your woman or make her look like a fool here?
Forgetting the special days.
That is the worst thing you can do to a woman. Forget her birthday or your anniversary and act like it is no my such a big deal y’all. That right there is pain. Do you wanna know why? It makes her feel irrelevant. If you cant recall those few details, it generally means she is not as important as she thought she was.
Frequently asked Questions
How does a man act when he hurts a woman?
Usually manifests through guilt. Aside from pain, a man feels guilty when he hurts the woman he loves. It isn't like how a woman feels guilty, but a man shows signs he is sorry for hurting you by crawling back into his shell. As a result, he will seclude himself, stay alone, or keep quiet.
How does a man act when he's hurt?
Men guard their feelings so well. Men often act guardedly when they have been hurt. Many don't run to their families or friends and pour out their guts. Some act stoically [1]. Instead of saying something, they withdraw and act out in other strange ways.
Why do guys hurt the girl they love?
We may never know but some times it is intentional and other times it is unintentional. It's not logical to hurt anyone you love. But there are men who lash out when they don't get their way. Some of these men are controlling. If their partner challenges their beliefs, their self-image or their delusions, they use violence and intimidation to get their own way.
Can a man love you and hurt you?
That always depends on the external factors if I may say. Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not. Nevertheless, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person.
Do men realize they hurt you?
Yes of course they do! Most men who initiate breakups or hurt their partners through their actions or words do eventually experience remorse over losing their beloved. Ultimately, your man will likely realize the flaws in his behavior and actions
