It is not only women that get hurt. Men have feelings too. If you do not believe me, then read on. Men have been raised to be strong in our society. The truth is, men have always been told to be the heroes, or to be strong no matter what they go through. This has led them to believe that they should not show their emotions because it is a sign of weakness. Men always end up making their emotions just to seem ‘strong’.
Since men do not find it easy to open up and talk about what hurts them, women always tend to brush off men’s feelings as well. Women tend to believe that men are always alright as long as they do not open up about what they feel or what is hurting them.
This is one of the major reasons why women tend to be less considerate of men's feelings. The belief that men don’t get hurt simply because they do not openly say out what has hurt them or even speak about the fact that they are hurt.
There are things that women do that unintentionally that hurt. The worst thing is that sometimes they don’t even know that they are hurting the men in their lives. If you happen to be someone’s lover, girlfriend or wife, then I suggest you check yourself just in case you do any of these things that could hurt your man.
Below are the things women do and they unknowingly hurt men;
Things women do and they unknowingly hurt men.
He is always to blame for everything.
Dear ladies. We know that men error here and there but let us not pretend. Men are not the only ones that error. Sometimes, ladies error even more than men but do not want to take full responsibility so they end up Gas lighting in a bid to throw the blame on to their partners. This is because they do not want to feel guilty about their wrong doings.
It is not always your man to blame for things going on in your relationship and you better acknowledge that. Stop throwing all the blame on him and making him feel worthless yet you know very well what you have dome wrong. Let your man take responsibility for his own sting doings and be an adult enough to shoulder yours.
He always foots the bill.
But who taught women that a man has to pay all the bulls? Of you did not know, then I just tell you that this is one of the most painful things men bear in their every day life. Once in a while, offer to pay even if it is half the bill. We get it that he has to provide for you but providing for you should not equate to him being exploited dear ladies.
He takes full responsibility for sexual matters.
It is always the man’s fault whenever a woman is not satisfied sexually! I hear that quite a lot but guess what, sometimes it is also your fault. It really takes two to tangle and if you are not getting involved in this game of chess, you are leaving him to do all the work. That is such a major turn off for men. He needs to feel your response because that is what keeps him going and only then can his performance be top notch. Stop being the log hunnie.
Aside from that, there is also the issue of initiation. If he has to initiate intimacy all the time, this too hurts. You need to take matters into your own hands sometimes dear ladies (What happened to the goddess of seduction, huh?) Get up and take charge. This will make him feel wanted for real.
He plans all the dates.
Why does the man have to plan all the dates? Where is your role in all of this? Are you just meant to show up and dine? That is not the way it’s supposed to work. It hurts like hell when ladies act this way. Sometimes, it feels like you are just helping him because you constantly refuse to even get involved in such a simple thing.
Using tears to guilt trip him.
The water fountain trick ladies. It hurts too much. If you are the kind of boyfriend who cries every time something serious comes up, then you best change this about yourself. You will force a man into believing he should apologize even when he is not in the wrong just because you are crying. It hurts to see your woman acting like a cry baby instead of fessing up to her crimes.
Being too dependent.
You always turn to him and look for him for every little thing, even the simplest of things you could easily handle on your own. Sister you are no longer dependent, you are a burden. Why on earth are you doing this? We know that men love to feel like they are your protectors and they are more than willing to be there for you but please don’t over do it. It sucks.
Not showing appreciation.
There is no worse pain than not being appreciated by the person that you are making an effort for. You have gone out of your way to do something nice for your woman and she does not even spare a second to appreciate you? Make that make sense because where are your manners, huh?
Openly flirting even in his presence.
FYI, your bot even supposed to flirt. What are you doing? Your in a relationship remember? If you want to flirt, be single gurl. Don’t destroy an innocent man like that.
Frequently asked Questions
What hurts men the most in a relationship?
Not appreciating him. If you don't appreciate his efforts, it makes him feel you are unhappy with him. What men want the most in a relationship is to see their partner happy. If you nag about all the little unwanted details in the relationship, you are indirectly giving him a sign you're better off without him.
What can hurt a guy the most?
No one likes getting their ego hurt, and that includes men. Our pride depends on how we view our worth, confidence, and self-esteem. The same goes for that tough guy you thought you knew so well. A blow to their confidence can send them down a spiral of insecurity.
How does a man feel after he hurts a woman?
When a man hurts a woman he loves, he feels emotions such as anger, guilt, frustration, self-loathe, fear, etc. Although he may not express his feelings confidently, a man will show signs he is sorry for hurting you or signs he knows he hurt you.
What hurts more in love?
Unrequited love hurts the most. You will love someone no matter what they have done to you and that someone may not love you back no matter what you do. That hurts. Those expectations hurt.
What hurts a guys ego?
Beating him at what he believes he knows best. The simplest way to hurt the person's ego is to do better than him in something he believes he is the best. If you are not able to do that then you should just show him he is not the best or even as good as he thinks he is by showing him people better than him
